Only, maybe not for you. Maybe your world turned upside down a week ago, or a month ago, when you lost your baby. Maybe you're still walking around in a fog and all this COVID-19 stuff is barely even registering with you.
That was me, eleven years ago.
Do you know why? Because 2009 was the year I had six surgeries, I had three cancer scares, and I lost two babies, including my daughter Naomi when I was nearly 19 weeks pregnant. My memories from 2009 are of significant moments: hearing that I had a tumor in my appendix; hearing a nurse call my husband at work because our baby was being born early; crying in my classroom with a teacher friend; laying on a cold table for a needle biopsy on my thyroid; waking up at 4:00 in the morning filled with regret because I couldn't keep my baby alive.
That year, more than any other, I needed people. I needed hugs. I needed friends who would listen and cry with me. My husband needed people who would bring us meals and check in with him, not just with me. We needed our church. We needed our extended family and times out of the house that weren't medical appointments when we could try to adjust to our new normal.
If we had had to enforce "social distancing" that year, I can only imagine how kind of isolation would have impacted our emotional health.
Now, in 2020, we are up against an unseen enemy, and everyone is learning how to hold one another at arm's length, if not even more distant than that. Self-quarantining, and even community quarantines, are becoming a thing that is a "when" more than an "if". What can you do to help yourself, or those around you, to manage your grief during the next couple of months? These are some things that might help.
If you are a "burden bearer" for someone in the throes of grief, please help them do these things!! Don't become so inwardly focused during this time that you forget your loved ones who need your support!